Lovely people of tumblr,
I am fundraising for my Uncle Dean to get a new prosthetic limb. He has been living with crutches for the last 5 years and is experiencing chronic pain as a result. We are trying to raise funds to help alleviate the astronomical cost of the prosthetic and the costs of physiotherapy. My family is from Fort St. John, a small town in northern BC, and due to the specialized nature of Uncle Dean’s prosthetic he will need to fly down to Vancouver and pay for the (very high) cost of living as he begins rehabilitation to learn how to walk again. Anything you can do - like, share, donate, spread the word, send positive energy/vibes/prayers his way - is so greatly appreciated.
You can donate here.
Does anyone in the NC area have a place where an Iranian trans* person can stay I need a safe space NOW PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST PLEASE
asks you if she’s pretty
your heart will drop like a wineglass
on the hardwood floor
part of you will want to say
of course you are, don’t ever question it
and the other part
the part that is clawing at
will want to grab her by her shoulders
look straight into the wells of
her eyes until they echo back to you
you do not have to be if you don’t want to
it is not your job
both will feel right
one will feel better
she will only understand the first
when she wants to cut her hair off
or wear her brother’s clothes
you will feel the words in your
mouth like marbles
you do not have to be pretty if you don’t want to
it is not your job” —it is not your job | Caitlyn Siehl (via faintestglance)
You know, the one that gives housewives/full-time mothers a pension— wages for housework?
It’s ONLY A HUGE VICTORY FOR FEMINISM, SOCIALISM, AND WOMEN OF COLOR. Not a big deal or anything. Tumblr is mysteriously silent about this.
And where are the sober spaces? We often talk about “building safer spaces”, and yet our fundraisers are not safe for people that have a current or past history with addiction. They are not safe for people that have experienced abuse because of alcohol/drug dependent partners or family members. And they are definitely not safe for everyone if there is a possibility of police interference. Consent violations also occur more often in non-sober spaces. Don’t we want to ensure the safety of event participants after the event has ended? Including alcohol limits who can attend, what conversations can occur, and who wants to organize. These events usually end with no advancement of our movements, and do not build long lasting, genuine connections.
I am interested in building and sustaining more sober spaces, bridging intergenerational gaps (especially in the queer community), and being accessible to ALL peoples, not just college kids. I am tired of people throwing around the word “community”, when what we really mean is our close group of (amazing and supportive) friends and acquaintances.” —
Really good freaking point, and well worth mulling over.
Yes! This is a conversation I’ve had many times with friends who are organizers/are recovering from addiction/who can’t be around alcohol or drugs because of PTSD/triggers/etc.
Welcome to my world of never wanting to hang out with punx/metalheads/general queer community. Safe spaces that are not sober aren’t really safe spaces for anyone with addiction issues. If I can stop smoking for an event for the comfort of others, you can not drink.
I seriously wish that there were more. I’m at a point where I personally am okay with being around folks who are drinking/smoking, but as for “hard drugs” and folks who get loud or angry when drinking—I can’t be around that. And it limits a lot of my social interactions with other queers, unfortunately.
After me expressing frustration at how one-dimensional and limiting it is that the queer scene exists mostly in spaces that have alcohol, a man on okc told me the reason queer spaces are so booze-orientated is because people want to get drunk to find people to sleep with.
WAY TO MAKE ME NOT WANT TO HOOK UP WITH YOU, OKC MAN.